I think it would actually be the opposite of what you are saying. Usually the women with the most unrealistic expectations come from a family without a father, or without a good father. A good father/daughter relationship allows for the girl/woman to have someone to spoil her and make a fuss of her, which is good because then when she is seeking a mate, she won't need someone else to spoil her because she already has her father.
In fact I would say that the friend of the OP and other men who are heavy into the red pill movement are also a result of a bad/absent father. If they see a healthy relationship between a mother and father in their own lives, they would be less likely to fall for the whole war of the sexes inherent in both the Feminist and Red Pill movements. Good personal experience is far more convincing than some random social trends, and the solution to the extremes created by extreme movements is to support and shine a light on more moderate/realistic/healthy relationships that have worked and can can serve as a template for future relationships to follow.
