This is really one of my biggest issues in the push for "muh diversitah"... you've got an ethnically diverse starship crew of 4 people... 2 men, 2 women, all different racial/religious backgrounds... good, right? Even plausible! BUT WAIT, there's more! One of the dudes is bi-curious, the tough woman is ofc a lesbian, the other woman becomes bi-curious, the other dude accidentally bangs the bi-dude because cabin fever or something. Brilliant!
Media is more and more becoming a "choose your own adventure" like Mass Effect or Bioware titles... but with save backing up and trying every choice as well. It doesn't feel organic at all.
Example of good writing: Bill in TLoU... felt totally normal. He didn't run around with a rainbow shirt on and he was clearly ok with himself.
Example of bad writing: Ellie; why make her lesbian? Here you have a tough girl that's been through some traumatic shit and her only protector is this grizzled dad-figure who lost his baby girl. Is that not enough?
To me it's creating an archetype where if a girl/woman is tough they automatically have to be lesbian. And now we've gone backwards. Instead of tough woman is tough because she has seen some shit. It's tough woman is tough because she's strong wamman and she likes girls too. It is a lowkey implication you can't have tomboys unless they're lesbians.
My daughters are tough as nails, finishing their black belts in Hapkido, and enjoy hunting/shooting/fishing/camping/hiking/every sport possible. But they're both very straight (I knew that when I took them to Thor: Love and Thunder and they reacted to him being chained up... yeah. Course I don't blame 'em, lol). In media they couldn't be like that without being trans/lesbian. That's not fair and not good representation of the MAJORITY. And if folks are in the majority (especially women; whom gaming has been trying to court for years), why the fuck wouldn't you want to represent them at least a little?
Another example (fuck you writers!) of muh diversities to wrap this up: Clementine in TWD games. Amazing games. Tough survivor girl. Guess what? She's a lesbian.
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