Tell us about your current relationship status, D-Pad.Life!
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Find someone under 30. People might think you're a creep, but really, they generally think men are creeps anyway. And there's a higher chance of a successful relationship with women that age. As soon as they hit 30, the risk of catching a wolf in sheep's clothing exponentially increases.
rndmslckr
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Honestly? Start going to a church with a lot of younger people. If you have your shit decently together, you will snag a 20-something looking for her MRS. degree, and you will be married within a year.
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I've had people try to set me up with 23 year olds. If I vibe with the person well enough then I'd probably be okay with it. I don't know how they or their parents would be about it. I had to think a lot about it. There's currently an option thats 17 years younger than me. Feels like quite a stretch, but we get along well.
The catch is the people that do this don't realize I'm in my 40s.
I had this old lady that visits my place of work try to set me up. She thought I was like 28. When she found out my age, she said "Oh dear, that'll be awkward. Just date young then." Like others here it seems, I get attention from young women. It just makes me think either its my appearance or young women are messed up trying to date old men.
Need open churches. California rules kind of limit that. A church girl does sound nice. LIke I said, Christian dating sites seems to be where all the sane girls are at.
At my age, it feels like the options are taking a young women you need to encourage/show how to be herself versus taking on an often older woman who you have to untrain all the pop-feminism out of so they can be happy with themselves.
Married and have one kid who is graduating high school next month. They grow up so fast. 
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Had a super nice, long and a bit flirty talk with a 20 year girl old last week while skateboarding and that got me thinking a lot about these issues as well over the last few days.
Would not have a per se problem to date a woman my age (mid forties), and I have enough children anyway so no interest there, but damn, most of these older women look horrible and act like old hags most of the time.
Decided I'd not give a fuck about people calling me a creep, and go for it.
Life is short.
Relationships with a certain age difference (younger female, older male) are more stable and the partners are happier, from a statistical standpoint. Compared to both being the same age and compared to the female being older.
Reason being that it's healthier for a relationship if the women is looking up to the man and respecting him. Which happens if the man is "further ahead" in life. If both are on the same level, women tend to apply more pressure and tend to not be satisfied with the current situation, expecting more.
So yeah, fellow dudes, date younger women. Your chances for a happy relationship will be higher that way.
Oh boy you've put yourself in a bit of a spot there. So first up, I think you made a really bad call dropping out of dating at 36. Your 30s are basically your peak dating years in terms of being physically in good shape and with your shit reasonably together (for most men anyway). In my case I spent my 20s fucking anything with a pulse basically, and yeah I had my fair share of nutters, the cancer-faker who pretended her mate had died in a car crash and faked a miscarriage being a real classic. Still, you get back on the bike and you learn the signs and get better at it. I lived in Thailand at the end of my 20s and yeah I had some fun, none of it paid to be 100% clear on that, and the important thing is I got that out of my system. It helped to figure out that I don't really want the Asian subservient women, I like a woman with a bit of fire in her belly. Not full on big red feminist mad but enough to call me on my bullshit etc. The point of all those bad early dates is that you learn what you want, and often they're learning what they want too, I suspect a fair few of them calmed down and became less nuts as they got older, just as I did.
I got back to the UK at 30, got on OkCupid, met the wife (she was 19) and we chatted and got on, met up and got on like a house on fire and honestly when you know you know. She was bullshit-free, didn't play games, was interested in me despite the fact that at that time I was sofa-surfing and most importantly had magnificent tits. Still does. Now I was pretty lucky, I got my timing just right. I'm now 41 and my beard is mostly grey and the dating scene looks a mess to me. Now on the plus side at 40 you know what you are and you're likely to have your shit very much together, hopefully a solid career, etc. If not, well that's gonna be tricky. However, the dating scene is the problem. First up, dating under-30s is a disaster, they'll all be woke as hell. My wife is a little bit though she's starting to see some of the madness and understand it, but her friends are horrendous. Part of that is a class thing - she went to private school so all her mates are posh, as is she to be fair (I married up - I'm common as muck) - but still, it's a dangerous area to date because you will not, at 41, have a damn thing in common with a woman in her 20s. Trust me when I say that if you don't speak the same language it's a nightmare. The 10 year gap with my wife is funny in that all my 80s stuff goes over her head a bit, though I've been introducing her to it and she's getting it more, but a 20 year gap.. the girls in the office are horrendous, going on Tinder to get free food isn't particularly uncommon for instance.
Now I was both lucky and unlucky to miss the Tinder revolution, I think it's done tremendous harm. Sure I'd have enjoyed the easy shags though in truth I did ok on Faceparty back in the day, but now everyone's got unrealistic expectations about what they want, taking almost a shopping view of dating, and if the product doesn't match up to expectations they send it back to the store. I foresee a lot of lonely people due to a combination of that and the toxicity of modern feminism. Trust me when I say life is better when you have someone in your life you really care about. Now having ruled out the under-30s we move into the older bracket. It's certainly possible to find attractive women in that range, but it's certainly harder at that point because the weight starts to go on (really this starts in the mid-20s for many). I also noted back in the day that the cougars were mostly drunkards. Believe me when I say you don't want to date a drunk. The truth is that quality women worth marrying are not going to still be available in their 30s unless they've had something happen (ie husband died or something like that). So that leaves you a bit stuck.
Going back to the 20s - you may have some luck if you look for more conservative women, Christians may be a good option, though if you aren't one yourself you may find they're not interested. Still, if I was dating right now that's likely where I'd be looking, while keeping an eye out for the rare decent 30+. Still, honestly, I'd hate to have to get back into the dating pool right now, I am so glad I'm married. Good luck, you've put yourself in one hell of a spot there but I hope you manage to get out of it.
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Sadly exercise has shrunk my magnificent tits.
I've been married for 15 years, and we have 4 kids.
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Married for almost 11 years (dated her for 5 years before that). We have a toddler.
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I don't believe that anyone who has played this much Final Fantasy has ever had his dick near a woman. Story is bullshit.
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I'm not far behind him when it comes to playing final fantasy. I have both a wife and a kid. Clearly, he's just married to the wrong woman.
Iorv3th
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This makes a lot of sense and I would have to agree with it.
Yeah I'm in my mid 30's and most women my age either have several kids and sound like a ton of work, or they are super weird and liberal and whacky and you don't want to go near that shit.
I think one of the potential downsides of a LONG relationship is that you begin to view your SO as an extension of yourself.. all you insecurities and issues are projected onto the other person. If you hate yourself, you're more likely to feel that same hate and resentment towards them. If you're lacking in self-respect, you're more likely to emotionally abuse your wife/husband. You can begin to take them for granted as a separate autonomous person. You find yourself having more patience and understanding for others, but come down hard on yourself and your spouse. Personally, it has been a challenge to maintain that delineation over our 20 year relationship. I think we've gotten better over the last few years as we try to be more self-aware and make time for ourselves and our independent interests.